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Everything probably seemed so easy and simple at the beginning of your relationship – and you never imagined that divorce would be such a tricky process. But even in the best of circumstances, divorce is a situation where tempers might run high, and each decision can seem more stressful than it needs to be. And it’s only human to find yourself struggling emotionally at certain stages of the divorce or reacting emotionally rather than logically. However, it’s important to remember that how you navigate the divorce can affect things for years to come, especially if you have children with your ex-spouse.
What to Do:
1. Be reasonable:
Be as reasonable as possible and try to cooperate with your ex-spouse. Compromise as often as you can. If you are struggling with this or your ex-spouse is not cooperating with you, mediation might be a good option for your family – this is available from M. Sue Wilson Family Law.
2. Support your kids:
Divorce can be even tougher on your children than it is on you, so support them through the process. Come to an agreement about your children as early as possible and keep them in the loop about what’s going on. Don’t talk badly about your ex-spouse in front of your kids or make them pick a side.
3. Know your options:
There are other options available – depending on your circumstances, you might be eligible for alternatives to divorce such as a legal separation, annulment, or summary dissolution.
4. Fully disclose your finances:
Make sure that you make a full disclosure of all your assets and property. A court will be able to throw out a divorce decree, based on financial deception.
5. Ask your attorney:
If anything doesn’t make sense or you just want more information, don’t be afraid to ask your attorney. They’re there to answer your questions.
What to Avoid:
1. Don’t lose your temper:
Divorce can be a very frustrating situation but try not to lose your cool; lashing out at your ex will only make matters worse. A therapist can help you work through the emotions.
2. Don’t violate any custody agreements:
If you have custody agreements in place – whether formal or informal – it’s important that you stick to them. Not doing so could make it harder for you to get the custody or visitation rights that you want.
3. Don’t make any big plans:
Try to avoid making any big plans, like moving to another state, getting a job out of town or even moving abroad until your divorce has been finalized, as starting a new life could interfere with the process. If you’re making plans now, don’t set firm dates until you know you can.
4. Don’t go it alone:
Divorce is a complicated and often emotionally taxing process, so don’t try to navigate it all on your own. You will need the help and support of a good divorce attorney to help you make sure that your best interests are protected.
Divorce probably wasn’t what you planned on – but if it happens, making the right choices when navigating it will lead to better results for you and your family.